愛(ài)情專家透露秘笈：老公愛(ài)出軌怎么辦？

　　Worried your man may be straying? Here, with the help of relationship experts, we reveal the tell-tale signs. Your man is more likely to cheat if... Know the signs: Certain men are more likely to be unfaithful according to relationship experts

　　擔(dān)心老公出軌？擔(dān)心男友劈腿？如何才能正確判斷？別請(qǐng)教愛(ài)情專家了，這里的12個(gè)“防范劈腿秘笈”可以手把手教你如何保護(hù)好你的愛(ài)情，進(jìn)行最合理的“婚姻保衛(wèi)戰(zhàn)”。

　　1. You earn more than him

　　第一，掙得比他多。

　　It will dent his ego, but could also harm your ­relationship if you are one of the 2.7?million British women who earn more than their man. A 2010 study suggested men who are ­dependent on their female partners for income were five times more likely to cheat than those who contributed equally。

　　或許在當(dāng)今的職場(chǎng)中，女人以能和男人“同工同酬”甚至比男人賺得多為榮，但是專家證實(shí)男人其實(shí)害怕另一半比他們賺得多。這個(gè)理論會(huì)“殃及”英國(guó)270萬(wàn)事業(yè)比男人成功的女強(qiáng)人啊。數(shù)據(jù)統(tǒng)計(jì)，“吃軟飯”的男人出軌機(jī)率是普通男人的5倍。

　　2. He works long hours

　　第二，他用在工作上的時(shí)間很長(zhǎng)。

　　If your ­partner works such long hous that he spends less than 10 per cent of his time with you, then there’s a one in ten chance that he (or you) will be unfaithful。

　　如果你的另一半用在工作上的時(shí)間太長(zhǎng)，而放在你身上的時(shí)間還不到10%，那么你真的要小心了。專家說(shuō)，他們出軌的機(jī)率占到10%。

　　3. You live together before getting ­married

　　第三，未婚先同居

　　Many believe living together before getting hitched allows couples to get used to each other’s idiosyncrasies, paving the way for a smooth married life. But a Relate survey suggested those who live together but don’t marry are up to 40 per cent more likely to be unfaithful than those who tie the knot。

　　不管在電影《非誠(chéng)勿擾2》中葛優(yōu)以及舒淇表演的“試婚”還是別的什么，雖然有人說(shuō)同居可以提前適應(yīng)對(duì)方的生活習(xí)慣，看看能不能一輩子在一起。然而專家稱，婚前同居男女中，有40%的男性對(duì)另一半不忠。

　　4. His father or brother has had an affair

　　第四，對(duì)方父親或者兄弟有外遇行為

　　Scientists have ­uncovered a genetic link to infidelity. Two years ago, a study at the Karolinska ­Institute, in Stockholm, showed men who inherit a genetic variant that affects an important attachment ­hormone called vasopressin, are more likely to have weaker relationships and marital problems, and less likely to be married。

　　不良的行為示范可以讓你的另一半也變壞呢，科學(xué)家檢測(cè)出“偷情基因”，實(shí)驗(yàn)中發(fā)現(xiàn)“共同享有”這種基因的男性更容易叛變。

　　5. He's been married before (but you haven't)

　　第五，有過(guò)婚史的男人，但女性未婚

　　A paper published in the European Journal of Operational Research in 2009 tracked 1,000 couples who were either married or in serious relationships over five years. Researchers found a ­previous divorce ­lessened the chances of a relationship surviving, although this was less marked when both partners had been divorced before。

　　和有婚史的男人在一起，他們?nèi)菀自僖淮螌?duì)婚姻做出不忠行為。專家還分析，如果男女雙方都有過(guò)婚史，那重新結(jié)合后相互做出不忠行為的可能性會(huì)稍微低些。

　　6. He's sex-obsessed

　　第六，性愛(ài)狂

　　One third of 1,468 men questioned admitted to viewing online pornography. According to Julia Cole, men who use internet porn on a ­regular basis are more likely to be unfaithful, as the habit can produce a deadening effect on emotions that can hurt ­relationships. Cole says: ‘Excessive use of chat lines, sex-texting and porn can leave someone numb to the emotional responses they would feel in a normal relationship.’

　　實(shí)驗(yàn)中，1468個(gè)男人中有30%的人承認(rèn)他們會(huì)在網(wǎng)上觀看性愛(ài)視頻，而專家稱，對(duì)于性行為有特殊癖好的男人比較危險(xiǎn)。

　　7. He was privately (or religiously) ­educated

　　第七，有受過(guò)特殊的宗教教育

　　A survey by illicit encounters.com found almost one quarter of the site’s 500,000 members attended ­private schools. A further 15 per cent of members had attended religious schools。

　　在調(diào)查中，專家發(fā)現(xiàn)有過(guò)偷腥經(jīng)驗(yàn)的人中，有25%的或多或少接受過(guò)宗教教育，或曾進(jìn)入過(guò)宗教學(xué)校。

　　8. He doesn't like your family or friends

　　第八，他對(duì)你的家人朋友無(wú)好感

　　Relate says men risk losing a close-knit support group, and not just their spouse, if they stray。

　　相信我，一個(gè)不愛(ài)你的家人和善待你朋友的男人，絕對(duì)不會(huì)善待你。

　　9. He's a social-networking enthusiast

　　第九，社交狂人

　　One law firm, Divorce Online, claimed almost one in five petitions they processed cited Facebook. ‘I am seeing an increasing number of people whose partners have been unfaithful through one of the social networking methods,’ says Julia Cole。

　　如果你的男人是一個(gè)“社交蝴蝶”，那么你真的要小心了。

　　10. He has a lower IQ than you

　　第十，他的情商很低，比你要低。

　　Earlier this year, a study by Dr Satoshi Kanazawa, an evolutionary psychologist from the London School of Economics and Political Science, revealed the smarter a man is, the less likely he is to cheat on his partner。

　　一個(gè)情商低的男人，很有可能做出很多不可思議的行為。做出以后，更容易被發(fā)現(xiàn)。