值得你去花時(shí)間體會(huì)的5條人生感悟 撰文：Anastasiya 發(fā)表于2010年9月15日 翻譯：Shayne Yeats ---Author Unknown 真實(shí)地活出自我遠(yuǎn)比向他人宣揚(yáng)布道意義深刻。 ------ 語出不詳 我想在今天與各位分享一些與眾不同的東西，僅此一次，因?yàn)槲也幌矚g討價(jià)還價(jià)，也不喜歡過多的談?wù)撟约骸Ｎ蚁肱c你分享的就是我所領(lǐng)悟到的人生智慧（因?yàn)槲易约旱娜松啔v有限，所以這就是為什么我只與你們分享5條人生感悟的原因），正是因?yàn)檫@些感悟我的生活才會(huì)變得更加平衡與和諧。 當(dāng)你在閱讀博客或書籍時(shí)，你是否會(huì)發(fā)出這樣的疑問，“這家伙真的對(duì)他自己所說的東西了如指掌嗎？”你所讀到的建議看上去完全是不合邏輯、不切實(shí)際和沒有實(shí)際用處的。你讀到這樣的話“微笑，積極地生活，那樣的話一切都會(huì)好起來?！钡?，假如你有一個(gè)生病的孩子或剛剛失業(yè)的話，你如何才能做到這點(diǎn)呢？也許你會(huì)聽到“不要吃得太多，每天都有鍛煉，這樣你就可以很輕松地減掉肥肉?！焙冒?，這聽上去好像事實(shí)就是如此簡(jiǎn)單。但是，你知道我在這里想要說的是什么嗎？ 我不希望自己成為只會(huì)講大道理卻不身體力行的人。我希望能夠幫助其他人找到生活的平衡點(diǎn)，但是我只分享那些對(duì)自己有效果的建議和意見。我不是那個(gè)口口聲聲說“往下跳！”，卻同時(shí)又站在飛機(jī)里的那個(gè)人。這篇博文所談到的不僅僅是我的生活，還是我想與你分享的我所體會(huì)到的人生感悟，我希望這些建議能夠幫助你過上一種平衡、寧靜的生活。 1.耐心和毅力。 托馬斯 愛迪生說過“天才就是百分之一的靈感加上百分之九十九的汗水?！?/span> 其實(shí)，我早就在我的生活中親身體驗(yàn)到了這條真理。我們往往都希望事情在短時(shí)間內(nèi)就有成效，當(dāng)事情不如我們的意愿時(shí)，我們常常就會(huì)過早地放棄。 在許多方面我都在培養(yǎng)我的耐心（我不太確信何時(shí)該讓我的孩子們開始用便壺，而有時(shí)我只想放棄），而且我也知道這是我實(shí)現(xiàn)自己的大目標(biāo)唯一方法。 當(dāng)我開始開始寫這個(gè)博客時(shí)，我沒有投入太多的精力。我把許多東西都曬在這個(gè)網(wǎng)頁上，然后期待著它能找到自己的讀者并獲得成功。當(dāng)然了，這樣的事從來沒有發(fā)生過，我不是一個(gè)有天賦的寫手，而且英語是我的第三語言（甚至還不是我的第二語言，）最終我還是開始認(rèn)真對(duì)待我的博客，并開始寫作，我學(xué)到了很多東西。我發(fā)布的頭幾篇博文都寫得不好（實(shí)際上，它們寫得都很糟糕，你可以從文章存檔中找到它們），但是我刻苦練習(xí)，力求以到位的語法、更好的寫作風(fēng)格和更棒的建議寫作。耐心和毅力是這次旅程中的兩個(gè)好伴侶，我花了將近三年的時(shí)間才取得這個(gè)博客的成功，而且我很享受我所走過的每一步。 2.松開束縛你的韁繩 你想成為你命運(yùn)的主人嗎？這一問題過去常常困擾著我，因?yàn)橛行┦挛揖褪欠挪幌?。我過卻常常希望一切事情都如我所計(jì)劃的那樣；我過去常常希望自己總是第一名（就如你對(duì)于超級(jí)成功人士的那種典型描述）。 我從生活這場(chǎng)魔術(shù)中所感悟到的就是我們無法全面地掌控自己的生活。而我們所能做的事就是盡我們所能做最好的自己，然后好事就發(fā)生了。生活就是這樣的。 我已經(jīng)學(xué)會(huì)了享受生活中的每一個(gè)瞬間并不再為超出我掌控范圍的事而擔(dān)憂。我為我自己所擁有的一切心懷感激，當(dāng)然我還在為未自己來做計(jì)劃，我很確信的一點(diǎn)就是我很享受當(dāng)下的每一分每一秒而不是十年或二十年后的日子。 我沒有必要總?cè)?zhēng)奪第一名。 我沒有必要強(qiáng)迫自己時(shí)刻去成為一個(gè)“超女”。 我沒有必要非要跨越障礙才能感受到開心與自得。 我得時(shí)刻地告誡自己得放慢生活的腳步并讓生活中的分分秒秒都變得多姿多彩。這樣子做給我?guī)砹嗽S多幫助，而且我深信它也會(huì)幫助到許許多多其他的人。 3.接納你自己 我們每個(gè)人所能做出的最偉大的發(fā)現(xiàn)就是發(fā)現(xiàn)自我。很多時(shí)候我們想成為另一個(gè)人，因?yàn)槲覀兿胱屪约涸谏钪邪缪萘硪粋€(gè)獨(dú)特的角色。不論你多么努力地去為此做出努力，對(duì)這個(gè)“虛假”的人格的追求都不會(huì)成功，而且你也無法感覺到內(nèi)心的平靜與平和。 我一直都很敬仰對(duì)那些能夠在任何情況下與任何人歡樂暢談的性格外向的人，我天生就是個(gè)性格內(nèi)向的人，我一直以來都知道這點(diǎn)，我嘗試去改變我身上的這部分自我。但是，我越是這樣去做，我越是感到痛苦。 當(dāng)我放棄了這種嘗試而去接納我自己（書呆子）的時(shí)候，我感覺好多了。這個(gè)發(fā)現(xiàn)讓我意識(shí)到了我自己的長(zhǎng)處，并且讓我在與陌生人相處時(shí)感覺更有自信。沒錯(cuò)，我不是交際花，但我也不是那個(gè)在聚會(huì)中獨(dú)自一人呆坐在黑暗角落中的那個(gè)人。 4.聽從你的直覺。 我們所能學(xué)到的最最棒的一個(gè)技巧之一就是聽從自己內(nèi)心的呼喚。聽從你自己的心聲能夠幫助你去結(jié)實(shí)志同道合的朋友，也會(huì)幫助你去充分地利用自己的直覺和潛能。這種“直覺”就像是你與上帝之間的對(duì)話，它也許是無意識(shí)的或是有意無意各占一半。 當(dāng)我開始聽從自己的身體的聲音時(shí)我才成功地控制住了我的體重。我沒有刻意去節(jié)食也沒有去拼命地鍛煉，取而代之的是選擇對(duì)我的身體來說更健康更好吃的食物（警告：巧克力蛋糕和雞翅吃起來味道不錯(cuò)，但是我的身體并不喜歡這種美味）。同樣我也改變了我的鍛煉計(jì)劃以符合我的個(gè)性（我喜歡單人運(yùn)動(dòng)，所以這就是為什么慢跑和普拉提是我的首選）。只要我聽從我自己的身體所發(fā)出的聲音，我就會(huì)感覺很棒，而且我也不再有任何超重問題。 我并不是惟一一個(gè)使用直覺去做出決定的人。喬治 華盛頓就是運(yùn)用直覺才在革命戰(zhàn)爭(zhēng)中解決了許多重大問題。當(dāng)他在放松狀態(tài)下運(yùn)用直覺去做出決定時(shí)，他的傳令兵不允許去打擾他。有一種理論就說，我們的國父是如此看重直覺的力量以至于他們將此印在美元鈔票的背面來提醒我們。未完工的金字塔上方有一只眼睛，暗示著直覺（眼睛）在孕育想法和做出決定（完成金字塔）中的重要作用。 5.時(shí)常挑戰(zhàn)自己。 當(dāng)我們過慣了舒適的生活后，我們就會(huì)變得懶惰。正是這種懶散才讓我們不再進(jìn)步、不再嘗試新鮮事物、不再去追求更平衡、更快樂的生活。 我時(shí)常擺在自己面前的挑戰(zhàn)就是不停地去學(xué)習(xí)一些新鮮的東西。它讓我的生活充滿驚喜，它為我打開了新的商業(yè)機(jī)遇，它也讓我成為了一個(gè)更完備的人。 當(dāng)我還居住在烏克蘭時(shí)，我在一家網(wǎng)站設(shè)計(jì)公司找到了一份工作。我之所以會(huì)被雇傭是因?yàn)槲业挠⑽乃奖容^好，而不是那些諸如“虛擬主機(jī)”、“html”、“ftp”等對(duì)我而言就像是外語的專業(yè)詞匯。在頭幾天里我對(duì)一切都充滿了恐懼，因?yàn)槲也恢肋@里在搞些什么名堂，也不知道我該去做什么。為了讓自己感覺自在些，我決定去學(xué)習(xí)HTML并把我所能找到的一切基礎(chǔ)網(wǎng)絡(luò)教程都看一遍。一個(gè)月過后，我就能夠獨(dú)立創(chuàng)建簡(jiǎn)單的網(wǎng)站，和客戶交談讓我感到很愉悅，而且我還可以為他們提供創(chuàng)建網(wǎng)站所需的指導(dǎo)和基礎(chǔ)的自定義設(shè)置（這些東西一開始對(duì)我而言就像是火箭技術(shù)那樣）。這真是一個(gè)非常巨大的個(gè)人勝利。 我所運(yùn)用的知識(shí)更多的是由我親身實(shí)踐而來，而非是我在大學(xué)里學(xué)到的東西。直到現(xiàn)在我才理解了我的一個(gè)教授過去常常說的那句話“大學(xué)教育的目標(biāo)并不是把一大堆信息裝進(jìn)你的頭腦，而是教會(huì)你如何去找到你所需要的信息?！?/span> 不論你年紀(jì)有多大都無關(guān)緊要，因?yàn)槟憧梢猿３Ｍㄟ^挑戰(zhàn)自己來學(xué)到許多新鮮的東西。 這些人生感悟幫助我過上了精彩而又平衡的生活。你愿意和我分享你自己的人生感悟嗎？那就請(qǐng)你在下方留下評(píng)論，如果你喜歡這篇文章的話，就把它分享給你的朋友們吧。你也可以就此話題寫一篇博文然后在評(píng)論里留下此文的鏈接。我很樂意在我的博客中分享你的文章。 保持生活平衡！Posted in Balanced Lifestyle| September 15, 2010 This post was written by Anastasiya
It is far more powerful to live your truth than to preach it.
I want to share something special with you today. I will do it just once because I do not like bragging or talking about myself too much. I want to share with you life lessons that I have learned in life (my life hasn’t been too long yet, that is why I am going to stick to just 5 lessons) and that have chiseled my life into a balanced and harmonious existence.
Do you sometimes read blogs or books and just wonder “Does this person really know what he/she is talking about?” The advice that you read seems completely illogical, impractical and just useless. You read “Smile, be positive and everything will get better.” But how can you do that if you have a sick child or you have just lost your job? Maybe you hear “Stop eating so much, start exercising every day and you will lose weight effortlessly.” Yeah, right, like this is THAT simple … Do you know what I am talking about here?
I do not want to be the person who preaches without living my truth. I want to help people find balance in their lives but I share only tips and advice that have worked for me already. I am not the person who will say “Jump!” but stay behind in the plane. This post is not about me, it is about lessons that I want to share with you and that I hope will help you on your journey towards balanced and peaceful living.
1. Patience and perseverance.
Thomas Edison said “Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety nine percent perspiration.”
This is a truth that I have learned in my life. We often want results to appear overnight and we give up too fast when something does not work out the way we want it to.
I am still leaning patience in a lot of areas (I am not sure when I will get my toddlers to use the potty and sometimes I want to throw in the towel) but I also know that this is the only way to reach my big goals.
When I started this blog I didn’t put much effort into it. I threw something together hoping that miraculously it will find its own readers and it will be a success (Here is a flash from the past – exclusive screenshot of Balance In Me when it was born – click here). Of course, that never happened. I am not the most talented writer and when I started my blog English was my third language (not even my second one.) I finally took my blog seriously and started creating content and learning a lot. My first posts were not that great (actually they were pretty bad and you can still find them in the archives) but I worked my way to better grammar, a better writing style and better advice. Patience and perseverance were my allies in this journey. It took me almost three years to get where I am now but I have enjoyed every step of that journey.
2. Loosen the reins.
Do you like to be in control of your life? I used to have a real problem with that because I just could not loosen up in life. I had to have everything just the way I planned; I had to be #1 all the time (your typical description of an over-achiever.)
The trick about life that I’ve learned is that we are never in full control of our lives. While we can try our best to be the best we can be sometimes things just happen. They just do.
I have learned to enjoy my life this very moment and not to worry about things that I have no control over. I am grateful for what I have right now and while I make plans for the future I still make sure that I can enjoy every moment of my life now, not 10 or 20 years from now.
I do not have to be # 1 anymore.
I do not have to be a superwoman all the time.
I do not have to leap over hurdles to be happy and content.
I have to remind myself constantly that I need to slow down in life and savor every moment. It helps me and it will help any other person on this planet, I am sure.
3. Accept who you are.
The biggest discovery that any of us can make is discovering who we really are. A lot of times we try to be somebody else because we want to portray a particular image in life. No matter how much you try that, this “fake” personality will never work out and you will never be able to feel at peace and in balance with yourself.
I have always been fascinated by extroverts – people who feel at ease in any surrounding and can communicate with anybody. I am an introvert by nature and though I always knew that, I tried to change that part about me. The harder I tried, the more miserable I felt.
When I gave up my attempts and accepted who I was (basically, a nerd) I started feeling so much better. This discovery made me realize my strengths and feel confident around strangers and generally in any situation. Yes, I am not a social butterfly but I am also not the one who will sit in the darkest corner of the room during a party.
4. Listen to your gut.
One of the best skills that a person can learn is listening to him/herself. Listening to yourself will help you make friends with your body, it will help you use your intuition and your potential to its fullest. The “gut feeling” can be the voice of God talking to you, it can be your unconsciousness or it can be both.
I have finally managed to take control of my weight when I started listening to my body. Instead of dieting and exercising like crazy I started making food choices that were healthier and tasted good to my body ( warning: chocolate cake and chicken wings taste good to my mouth but my body does not share this love.) I have also changed my exercise regime to fit my personality (I like solo exercise that is why running and Pilates are my top picks.) As long as I listen to my body, I feel great and I do not have any weight problems.
I am not the only one who was using intuition to make decisions in life. George Washington solved his most difficult problems during the Revolutionary War with intuition. His orderlies were instructed not to disturb him while he relaxed and intuited decisions. Actually according to one theory the founding fathers valued intuition so much that they have tried to remind us about it on the back of the dollar bill. The picture of the unfinished pyramid with an eye above it represents how important intuition (the eye) is in developing ideas or making decisions (completing the pyramid.) (This example came from the book ThinkerToys by Michael Michalko.)
5. Always challenge yourself.
When we get comfortable with a certain way of life we get lazy. This laziness keeps us from growing, from trying new things and from living a more balanced and happier life.
One of the challenges that I place in front of me is to learn something new constantly. It keeps my life exciting, it opens new business opportunities and it makes me a more fun person.
When I still lived in Ukraine I found a job in a web design company. I was hired because of my English skills but words like “hosting,” “html” and “ftp” sounded like a foreign language to me. During the first few days I was scared of everything because I didn’t understand what was going on there and what I had to do. In order to feel comfortable I decided to learn HTML and go through all the basic web tutorials that I could find. In a month I could create a simple site, I was comfortable talking to customers and I actually could guide them through the process of setting up a website and making basic customizations (something that seemed like rocket science to me at first.) That was a huge personal triumph.
I use things that I learned on my own much more than things that I learned in college. Actually now I understand what one of my professors always told us “The goal of a college education is not to stuff information into your head but to teach you how to find any information when you need it.”
It does not matter how old you are because you can always challenge yourself and learn something new.
These life lessons help me keep my cool in life and live in balance. Can you share your life lessons with me? Please leave a comment below and share this article with your friends if you liked it. You can also write an article with your life lessons on your blog and leave a comment with the link. I’ll be sure to share your article on my blog.
Keep it balanced!
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