Burt爺爺
大家好！我常常被人問道
Hello，a question I often Im asked is
我不能寬恕別人，我也很難寬恕我自己，這該怎么辦？
I cant forgive other people but I find it very hard to forgive myself.
有一個寬恕你自己的方法
Well,here is a way of forgiving yourself.
你甚至不用說'我寬恕了我自己'
That you dont even have to say I forgive myself.
這個方法很有效，若使用這個方法
And it will be so effective dead as
你會在你的生活中看到奇跡
small miracles will begin to happen in your life.
這個方法真的很棒 我嘗試過很多次
It is amazing and Ive had great success with it
甚為有效
And employing it with my clients on Skype.
首先要明白一點
First of all，Id like to know one thing which is very important，of course.
你是一個人
It is he fact that you are a human being.
也許你以前聽過這些話
I know youve heard it many times before.
但這次，為使你更能理解
But this time in order to understand how
寬恕 如何為生活帶來奇跡
Forgiveness is going to bring miracles into your life.
請認(rèn)真聽我接下來所講的內(nèi)容
Listen very very carefully to what is being said.
請在心中找到這種感覺
It is very important that you begin to feel it in your heart.
你是一個人
One is that you are a human being.
一個扮演某個人的存在
We take that for granted you are being playing the human role.
這個地球上雖然有70億人
This means that there are 7 billion humans on this earth,
但實際上只有一個存在 而這個存有就是你
But there is only one being and that one being is you.
你無法用頭腦理解這句話 頭腦認(rèn)同分裂
The mind cant understand it because it thinks in division,
認(rèn)同多樣性 認(rèn)同特異性
it thinks of multiplicity，it thinks in many nests.
而且頭腦只能思考線性時間和時空宇宙
You see?It also thinks in linear time and space time.
所以 你無法用頭腦理解這句話
So you cannot do it with your mind,
但你也許會說'可是我只能用頭腦思考啊'
but you might say,'But the mind is all I use.'
沒事,也許剛開始是這樣
well,maybe so in the beginning，
可是 經(jīng)過不斷的練習(xí)
but you'll find that even as you proceed with this process，
你的'心'會開始松動
your heart will begin to open,
你會開始享受生活中的每一秒每一刻
you'll begin to feel a joy in every second you had.
你會變得非常強(qiáng)大 遠(yuǎn)離一切消極想法和無謂的心理掙扎
You feel so strong in dealing with all negativity and all meatal activity.
我可以保證 因為我親自試過 知道這個方法有效
I can guarantee it because I've seen it.I've seen it word.
保持信心 去練習(xí) 去探索
So become convinced by investigating，by exploring.
這不是某種教學(xué)
Remember this is not a teaching,
這個方法只是為了幫你'憶起'
this is a discovery that
你是一個扮演某個人的存在
you are being playing the human role.
好 存在本身遵循一個美妙的法則
Okay,now the being has one law one secret incredible law.
即使你用頭腦思考這個概念 對你也甚有助益
It is so great that even to contemplate it will bring s change.
此概念超越一切
It is the highest of all there is nothing higher.
這就是無條件的愛
and this is called unconditional love.
每當(dāng)我們聽到'無條件的愛'這個概念 也許會想
Now when we hear unconditional love we get to think.
'我的天 這太抽象了'
'oh my goodness,this is just too much,you know,
'我無法理解 也無法感知'
I can't comprehend it,I can't even begin to feel it.'
但要憶起一點
But remember one thing that
這就是你想要的
this is all you ever want.
有時 你也許感到這場戲很難再演下去
You know, didn't you feel very hard to decor
當(dāng)你覺得自己被拒絕 不被需要 不被愛 不被尊敬
When you felt rejected，unwanted, unloved, not respected.
人們不重視你之時
People look down on you when you felt unloved.
你不感到難過嗎？
Didn't it feel really bad?
甚至 你會為此生出罪疚感
And sometimes you develop the guilt out of it，
連晚上睡覺做夢都很不舒服
and you took it even in your dreams at night.
為什么會這樣 國為我們想要無條件的愛
Okay，why is that?Because we want unconditional love.
所有情感創(chuàng)傷 注意聽這句話哦
All emotional pain, listen to this please,
歸根到底 都是在呼喚無條件的愛
ultimately is all a seeking of unconditional love.
這就像是一個小孩做出某些舉動 令媽媽感到心煩
It is like the child who was so troublesome to his mother and
媽媽很困擾 不知道該怎么辦
the mother is so frustrated and confused and confused as to how to deal with him.
于是 她向孩子吼了起來
and so she yells at him
她這一吼 情況反而更糟了
when she yells at him he becomes even more difficult,of course.
為什么 因為孩子一直
Why?Because in his heart,
在心里呼喊'媽媽 請愛我本來的樣子'
he is saying，'mummy please love me as I am
'不要愛你所認(rèn)為的我'
not as you want me to be.'
我們向來如此哭訴 這是自然
This is our cry but this is natural.
我們必須知道自己是誰 接受自己的本來面目
We have to know who we are and to allow ourselves to be.
這是存有的自由 也是你的天賦權(quán)利
This is the freedom of being，this is your birthright to be who you are
最終 你會發(fā)現(xiàn)
and to express that and then you will find that
你就是存在
who you really are is being.
那么 你開始能夠?qū)捤∧阕约毫?/h3>Okay，so this is how you begin to forgive yourself.
無論你是焦慮
Now whether you suffer from anxiety or
抑郁 生氣 受挫 困惑
depression,anger,frustration,confusion,deep emotional pain,
感受到任何痛苦
you know,all kinds of suffering.
我再重復(fù)一遍 這都是在呼喚無條件的愛
I repeat, they are all a seeking of unconditional love.
試著讓這句話'入心'
So now,by getting this into your heart.
直到有天 你真實地感受到這一切
but by taking time to really feel this ou，ou know，
不要用你的頭腦 用你的心
not with your mind but with your heart.
每當(dāng)你感到焦慮 感到難以承受這一切
How every time you feel anxious,every time you feel unreal,
感到難過或感到內(nèi)疚的時候
every time you feel difficult,every time you feel guilty,
你只需要松動你的'心'允許這一切的發(fā)生
It is nothing more than a deep need to feel okay.
只有感受到無條件的愛 才會允許一切的發(fā)生
And feeling okay comes from being loved unconditionally.
所以第一步就是 無條件地愛你自己
So the first step is for you to love you unconditionally.
那要怎么做呢
Now，how do you do that?
你可以這么做
Well, this is how you do it.
下次 你學(xué)得焦慮 抑郁
Next time you feel anxious,next time you feel depressed,
難過 感受到任何一種消極情緒
Next time you just don't feel good or suffering of any kind.
你只需保持覺察
Become aware of it.
你可以說'我覺得不自在 我覺得不舒服 不過沒事'
You know,saying,'hey I'm not that easy I'm not comfortable,Okay',
誠實面對自己的一切情緒 然后做個深呼吸
acknowledge it to yourself then take a deep breath,
深呼吸
for a deep breath,
吐氣 長長地吐一口氣
exhale, take a long time exhaling.
然后你就回到了當(dāng)下這一刻
And this brings you to the moment.
你會變得非常強(qiáng)大 遠(yuǎn)離一切消極想法和無謂的心理掙扎
You feel so strong in dealing with all negativity and all meatal activity.
我可以保證 因為我親自試過 知道這個方法有效
I can guarantee it because I've seen it.I've seen it word.
保持信心 去練習(xí) 去探索
So become convinced by investigating，by exploring.
這不是某種教學(xué)
Remember this is not a teaching,
這個方法只是為了幫你'憶起'
this is a discovery that
你是一個扮演某個人的存在
you are being playing the human role.
好 存在本身遵循一個美妙的法則
Okay,now the being has one law one secret incredible law.
即使你用頭腦思考這個概念 對你也甚有助益
It is so great that even to contemplate it will bring s change.
此概念超越一切
It is the highest of all there is nothing higher.
這就是無條件的愛
and this is called unconditional love.
每當(dāng)我們聽到'無條件的愛'這個概念 也許會想
Now when we hear unconditional love we get to think.
'我的天 這太抽象了'
'oh my goodness,this is just too much,you know,
'我無法理解 也無法感知'
I can't comprehend it,I can't even begin to feel it.'
但要憶起一點
But remember one thing that
這就是你想要的
this is all you ever want.
有時 你也許感到這場戲很難再演下去
You know, didn't you feel very hard to decor
當(dāng)你覺得自己被拒絕 不被需要 不被愛 不被尊敬
When you felt rejected，unwanted, unloved, not respected.
人們不重視你之時
People look down on you when you felt unloved.
你不感到難過嗎？
Didn't it feel really bad?
甚至 你會為此生出罪疚感
And sometimes you develop the guilt out of it，
連晚上睡覺做夢都很不舒服
and you took it even in your dreams at night.
為什么會這樣 國為我們想要無條件的愛
Okay，why is that?Because we want unconditional love.
所有情感創(chuàng)傷 注意聽這句話哦
All emotional pain, listen to this please,
歸根到底 都是在呼喚無條件的愛
ultimately is all a seeking of unconditional love.
這就像是一個小孩做出某些舉動 令媽媽感到心煩
It is like the child who was so troublesome to his mother and
媽媽很困擾 不知道該怎么辦
the mother is so frustrated and confused and confused as to how to deal with him.
于是 她向孩子吼了起來
and so she yells at him
她這一吼 情況反而更糟了
when she yells at him he becomes even more difficult,of course.
為什么 因為孩子一直
Why?Because in his heart,
在心里呼喊'媽媽 請愛我本來的樣子'
he is saying，'mummy please love me as I am
'不要愛你所認(rèn)為的我'
not as you want me to be.'
我們向來如此哭訴 這是自然
This is our cry but this is natural.
我們必須知道自己是誰 接受自己的本來面目
We have to know who we are and to allow ourselves to be.
這是存有的自由 也是你的天賦權(quán)利
This is the freedom of being，this is your birthright to be who you are
最終 你會發(fā)現(xiàn)
and to express that and then you will find that
你就是存在
who you really are is being.
那么 你開始能夠?qū)捤∧阕约毫?/h3>Okay，so this is how you begin to forgive yourself.
無論你是焦慮
Now whether you suffer from anxiety or
抑郁 生氣 受挫 困惑
depression,anger,frustration,confusion,deep emotional pain,
感受到任何痛苦
you know,all kinds of suffering.
我再重復(fù)一遍 這都是在呼喚無條件的愛
I repeat, they are all a seeking of unconditional love.
試著讓這句話'入心'
So now,by getting this into your heart.
直到有天 你真實地感受到這一切
but by taking time to really feel this ou，ou know，
不要用你的頭腦 用你的心
not with your mind but with your heart.
每當(dāng)你感到焦慮 感到難以承受這一切
How every time you feel anxious,every time you feel unreal,
感到難過或感到內(nèi)疚的時候
every time you feel difficult,every time you feel guilty,
你只需要松動你的'心'允許這一切的發(fā)生
It is nothing more than a deep need to feel okay.
只有感受到無條件的愛 才會允許一切的發(fā)生
And feeling okay comes from being loved unconditionally.
所以第一步就是 無條件地愛你自己
So the first step is for you to love you unconditionally.
那要怎么做呢
Now，how do you do that?
你可以這么做
Well, this is how you do it.
下次 你學(xué)得焦慮 抑郁
Next time you feel anxious,next time you feel depressed,
難過 感受到任何一種消極情緒
Next time you just don't feel good or suffering of any kind.
你只需保持覺察
Become aware of it.
你可以說'我覺得不自在 我覺得不舒服 不過沒事'
You know,saying,'hey I'm not that easy I'm not comfortable,Okay',
誠實面對自己的一切情緒 然后做個深呼吸
acknowledge it to yourself then take a deep breath,
深呼吸
for a deep breath,
吐氣 長長地吐一口氣
exhale, take a long time exhaling.
然后你就回到了當(dāng)下這一刻
And this brings you to the moment.
接著說
Then in that moment say:
謝謝你 讓我覺察到
Thank you for making me aware
我會因此而不自在
that I am not feeling comfortable with myself.
謝謝你 讓我覺察這一切
Thank you, thank you for making me aware.
此明 去感受那無條件的愛
And you are thinking unconditional love.
這種愛象征上主 象征完美一體
It has been known as God, it has been known as oneness,
象征那個終極無限的智慧 稱它什么都沒關(guān)系
the ultimate one infinite intelligence.It doesn't matter.
實際上 我們有非常多的例子 可能有上百萬個吧
In fact, it has been proven by many cases now,millions of cases actually.
如今 人們的心靈開放了不少
Because people are coming out of the closet,
大家已經(jīng)可以公開地談?wù)摓l死體驗了
talking about their NDE,near-death experience,right.
許多人都看到了光 覺察到自己穿越一條隧道
So many people have experienced light,going to a tunnel or whatever.
但所有人都有一個相同的經(jīng)歷
But there's one thing everyone experiences.
他們都體驗到了無條件的愛
They experience unconditional love.
這種愛是如此美妙 如此輝煌 如此醉人
In fact，it is so beautiful,so glorious, so wonderful that
大概有百分之九十八的人不愿意回到身體
ninety-eight percent don't want to come back at all to the body.
不過 在那個狀態(tài)里呆不久
They won't stay there.
我再重復(fù)一遍 你只需要
So this is what you do, I repeat.
誠實地面對你的情緒 允許這一切的發(fā)生
Acknowledge how you are feeling and it's okay,
同時別忘了 有個概念叫做罪疚
because remember that we have something called guilt.
生而為人 生母傳遞罪疚
It's being brought on us by not only our parents,
宗教傳遞罪疚
but by our religions,
他們說'我們生而有罪'
who tell us you're born and sin.
你耳邊大概經(jīng)常聽到這樣的話
You know,you're told
'你該為你這么做 這么想而感到羞恥'
oh you should be ashamed of yourself to think like that to be like that.
我們總是設(shè)限 判斷對錯
You see,so we have certain conditions make things wrong.
罪疚感由此而生
And so by making things wrong with your guilty,
罪疚能夠傳遞 罪疚十分黏人
now guilt is the air,is a very sticky feeling,okay.
如果你試圖擺脫罪疚
And what happens is that if you try to get rid of it,
罪疚只會和你黏得越緊
it sticks to you even more because you keep
因為是你使喚得罪疚黏得更加牢固
making it more solid.
如果你看到罪疚 那便會行業(yè)
And you see guilt, also that's another thing too,
`罪疚就會開始興風(fēng)作浪
it begins to seek power.
這便制造了施虐和受虐的癖好
And it does a true either sadism or masochism.
有受虐的癖好 就會不斷地自我折磨 自我懲罰
Masochism is self-inflicted pain.Self-punishment.
'我不夠好''我肯定有問題'
'I'm not good enough' 'there's something wrong with me'
'我肯定哪里搞錯了'瞧 這就是罪疚
'Im missing something ' See,this is guilt.
這同時造就了施虐的癖好
And there is also a part of sadism.
表現(xiàn)為殘忍和暴行
it comes in brutality and cruelty,
對動物殘忍 對他人殘忍 熱衷于復(fù)仇
cruelty to animals cruelty to other people,like to get revenge
對動物殘忍 對他人殘忍 熱衷于復(fù)仇
cruelty to animals cruelty to other people,like to get revenge
若有人對你不善 你希望他人付出代價 還為此感覺良好
Feel good and making people pay for what they said to you.
但這真的讓你感到快樂嗎？不
But does it make you happy?No.
你越是這么做 就越會討厭自己
It only increases a form of self-loathing.
只有一種方式有效
Theres only one thing that works.
無條件的愛
Unconditional love.
我一再重復(fù) 我們只需要無條件的愛
So I repeat this is what should do.
每當(dāng)你感動不舒服
The moment you feel any discomfort,
做個深呼吸
You take a deep breath,
感恩這無條件的愛 你就是這個愛
And then be thankful to the unconditional love that you are.
接通這愛 擁抱這愛 熱愛這愛
Talk to it,embrace it,love it,
然后說 謝謝你讓我覺察到這一切
And say thank you for making me aware of this.
因為這代表著 我在尋找這愛 我在渴望這愛
Because it means I am seeking you,I am wanting you,
我已成為這愛 謝謝 謝謝 謝謝
But I am already you, so thank you,thank you , thank you,
每次都這么做
And then by doing that every time,
允許一切如是 不再瞎想
And then let it be.You dont need to work it out,
不再編故事，不再停下來說
You dont need to figure it out,you dont need to stop and say
'為什么人們這么對我？'
'Why did people treat me that way?'
'我做錯了什么？'
'What is wrong with me?'
別這么做 好嗎？
Dont do that,okay.
其實非常簡單
Just make it very very simple.
謝謝你讓我覺察到這一切
Thank you for making me aware of this,
哪里受堵了 我就把愛推恩到哪里 這才是無條件的愛
and that is all I need for unconditional love.
我就是無條件的愛 謝謝 謝謝 我很感恩
But I am unconditional love,thank you,thank you , Im so grateful.
然后 你會覺得一切變得越來越簡單
And in time just becomes easier and easier and you find that
你也會活得越來越自在
Your life would change to such a beautiful state.
你就這樣醒來 以全新的方式 覺察這一切
Youre awaken to a whole new way of looking at mankind at yourself.
謝謝觀察 兄弟 感恩有你
Okay, so thank you for listening, thank you.
姝玲：你會發(fā)現(xiàn)當(dāng)你有情緒、能量低時，是自己在呼求愛，但愛不是在外尋的，只需要內(nèi)觀，讓自己的心'松動'一下，讓念頭只是飄過而不聽小我的詮釋。當(dāng)你最終明白，你自己就是愛，你就可以讓無條件愛的流經(jīng)。
