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孩子的教育問題越來越成為社會關(guān)注的焦點,parenting已然成為了一個熱門詞匯,那么在這個過程中,最重要的是什么呢?讓我們一起來聽聽這位老外跟我們分享她的經(jīng)驗吧!
Gwen
What do you think is the essence of parenting?
Patience. Just you have to have patience. With those patience, when unexpected things happen, you just have to be patient and work through them. You can't just automatically react to everything that happens, because then you're gonna lose their trust. So I think the the key is to always be patient and think before you react. That way they know what to expect. They they know that no matter what happens, good or bad, you're going to be understanding and you're gonna be there for them, and you're going to work through it.
That doesn't mean that they're going to get away with it, and there won't be consequences, but you're not going to act straightly out of impulse or emotion. You're going to think through it and make calm decisions. And I think that helps them feel confident that they can come to you without just automatic reactions.
get away with it 做了某事而不受懲罰
So patient, that's something I definitely had to develop. And when Matthew was really little, any little thing that happened to him, I would get so emotional about it. If I thought something was gonna hurt him or if I thought he was doing something he shouldn't do or any little thing, I'd get so worked up about it. But over time I realized that wasn't doing anyone any good. And I realized how he responded more to me when I was calm. I kind of stayed quiet and just let him talk and just listened. I kind of develop that skill as he got older. It's proven to be true. And I I said I'm a teacher. So I have fifty students at school that I teach.And the same is true for them. They just need me to be a listening ear. I need to be calm and collected and patient, and it just makes them more comfortable.
be worked up 激動
Gwen
That's definitely a good lesson to learn because I'm a mother too. I'm a mother of a five-year-old. I've come to realize that I sometimes lack of patience really, because I'm so busy with work. That is one reason of course, but I think it turns out to be an excuse sometimes because I'd rather stay alone and swipe the phone instead of talking with my child. So I think this is totally my fault, something I should definitely change.
swipe the phone 刷手機(jī)
I'm very impressed with you saying that because I think that's something very hard for moms to admit. But I think we all feel the exact same way. We don't want to admit that. But it’s true. It's true for almost all of us. And I think it boils down to being a mom is hard. You know, it's hard. You can try your very best and there's no guarantee that it's going to be good enough. So it's easier for us to focus on our work or focus on our phone focus on things that are guaranteed. I know if I go to work and I do a good job, I will be rewarded with pay or whatever promotion. I can calculate that. And I can find security in that, but there's no guarantee with being a mom.You can do everything right and things still go wrong with your relationship with your kids. It's hard and it's scary. And so I totally respect you for saying that.
boil down to 歸結(jié)于,取決于
e.g. It could simply boil down to a lack of opportunity
這可以簡單地歸結(jié)為:缺少機(jī)會。
I think more women need to stand up and just give themselves a little bit of credit, give themselves a break because you know we all do our best as moms in our own way. And we tend to be so hard on ourselves and we really need to take a step back and give ourselves a break and say 'listen, this is hard, it's hard and it's OK that I'm not always at a hundred percent. That's OK because it's hard. Being a mom is a full time job. And we need to just give ourselves a little bit of credit for what we do.
give sb credit 稱贊某人
to give someone credit means to give them praise
e.g. We must give credit to our sponsors who helped pay for this new building. 我們一定要稱贊幫助我們購買這座新大樓的贊助商。
Gwen
Yeah, that's true. Thank you so much for talking with me. You know, I've definitely learned a lot.
每個媽媽都擔(dān)心自己不夠優(yōu)秀,擔(dān)心不能給孩子最好的教育,但是就像這位老外媽媽說的,“we all do our best as moms in our own way”,
我們都在以自己的方式,努力做到最好。
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